Hai there, Njessi here. This is my first post. You will see more of me. Totally.
Today, we’re going to talk about couples being in different guilds. See, when the husband (Blackferne) and I met, we were already playing SWG on the same server, so we played in the same guild as each other… even when we tried out different servers, we went as a unit. Same thing for in WoW. We were always a team.
Now, back in SWG, he was the GM of a guild that has kept in touch (all these years!) and is re-forming for SWTOR. I like those guys just fine… but from my time in WoW, I figured out that I needed a different type of guild to be happy. Something raiding-focused. And, let’s be honest, a guild with a reasonable proportion of other females in it. No offense, guys, but the ratios really do affect guild culture.
OK, so I’ve decided to head off to The Snark Side with my buddies while he is on Church of Alvis with his buddies. We’re probably going to be on the same server, as we picked them as allies. And I imagine that we will be yabbering at each other “honey do you have any guildies who want to run XYZ?” if we are short a person on a given night.
The fact that we run on different schedules is actually going to work out to our advantage as a married couple with a child. One would think that we would want to at least schedule our game nights at the same time so even if we’re not doing the same content, we’re still both gaming at the same time. However, a certain little critter keeps being a pest during raid time, so it’s actually better at this point for one of us to be doing srs bzns gaming while the other is “on call” for critter emergencies.
I admit, it’s going to be a little weird after gaming side by side for so long to be in different guilds. Already he’s yabbering in vent and I’m like “lolwut?” because I think he’s talking to me, and he is not, he’s talking to his guild. However, I also think it will be fun to not be part of a gaming unit for the first time in years.
Do you game with your significant other? Talk amongst yourselves…
Is there an “Ally Channel” feature in the game, or would it be possible to create one? Given the fact that we are a smallish guild, having other to join in for flashpoints should be a great thing.
I tried setting one up in beta but didn’t have any luck with it. I imagine it will happen sooner or later.
Custom chat channels would be awesome. For now the custom chat channel is me hollering across the room.
I really can’t imagine not being in the same guild as Dion. We don’t NEEEEEED to be together in game all the time – it’s possible for us to raid or quest separately – but otherwise I would expect him to follow me wherever I go.
I was in a different guild from my SO for all of Cataclysm and it was… weird. To say the least. It made us grow apart in some ways, because we are a long distance couple and a lot of our way of staying close is through our shared gaming habits. So that was rocky at times. But we (like you it sounds like) are not happy in the same kind of guild, and I also wanted someplace with a more reasonable proportion of females in it! It’s about to get even weirder as I plan to make WoW my SECONDARY game, and he plans to keep it as his PRIMARY game and make SWTOR his secondary game. So we’ll have to make it work, more or less. Although I do think he might be tagging along around the edges of this guild at some point during the next few months.
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